Involving children in abuse of their mother after separation is a common tactic of manipulative ex-partners. Many use the children as pawns, drawing them into adult issues, bribing and/or threatening them to try to win their favour or using them to spy on their mother.

One tool abusers use to involve children is communication technology. This may come in the form of gifts, such as a smartphone or a teddy bear with a hidden webcam, close monitoring through social media, or paying for internet services that allow the ex-partner to monitor and control the woman’s household’s usage.

Women can find some protection from these tactics with carefully worded court orders. The following resource provides suggestions.

Download: Sample language for court order to limit tech abuse involving children

This resource is part of our Tech Safety Toolkit.