‘A way to kill me slowly’: How ‘legal bullying’ has trapped a Hamilton woman
A recent article in The Hamilton Spectator, written by Nicole O’Reilly, highlights the devastating reality many survivors of intimate partner violence face after separation: the abuse often continues through the family court system.
The article explores how one Hamilton woman became trapped in ongoing litigation and coercive post-separation abuse, a pattern often referred to as “legal bullying.” For many survivors, repeated court motions, financial pressure, intimidation, and prolonged legal conflict become another way abusive partners maintain power and control long after the relationship has ended.
At Luke’s Place, we see these experiences every day.
Emily Murray, who was interviewed for the story, spoke to the dangerous realities survivors face when navigating family law systems that are often not designed with intimate partner violence in mind.
“Leaving an abusive relationship does not always end the abuse. For many women, the family court process can become another avenue for coercion, intimidation, and control.” – Emily Murray, Legal Director and Acting Executive Director, Luke’s Place
Survivors navigating family law matters while dealing with trauma, safety concerns, financial instability, and parenting challenges need more than basic legal information. They need trauma-informed, safety-focused, and accessible support from professionals who understand the dynamics of intimate partner violence and post-separation abuse.
Through legal information, safety planning, court support, and access to specialized legal services, Luke’s Place helps women across Ontario navigate some of the most difficult and dangerous moments in their lives. Our work focuses on improving safety, increasing access to justice, and helping survivors make informed decisions for themselves and their children.
As conversations about coercive control and post-separation abuse continue to gain attention, it is essential that survivors have access to specialized legal supports close to home, especially in communities where access to services may already be limited.
We encourage you to read and share the full article:
Read the Hamilton Spectator article here
If you or someone you know is navigating family law issues connected to intimate partner violence, support is available through Luke’s Place.
Resource on legal bullying
