Managing Parenting Time After Court: Tips for Staying Safe and Supported
Navigating parenting time after court can be challenging, especially when dealing with a former partner who may use contact with the children as a form of control. Even with a court order in place, the day-to-day reality can be stressful and emotionally exhausting.
Here are a few tips to help manage contact more safely and confidently:
Be Specific in Your Court Order
A detailed parenting order can reduce uncertainty and limit opportunities for manipulation. Include clear pick-up and drop-off times, locations, and communication boundaries. If possible, ensure the order is enforceable by the police.
Set Boundaries
It is important to limit communication to agreed-upon times and use neutral exchange locations, never your home. If you’re receiving updates about the kids, try to go through teachers, doctors, or daycare providers instead of your ex-partner.
Keep a Record
Track all problems: missed visits, late arrivals, concerning things your children share, or inappropriate messages. Let your lawyer know any time you deny your ex-partner time with the children.
Find Support
Ask someone you trust to be present during exchanges, or consider supervised access if safety is a concern. Counselling for your children may also help them process what they’re experiencing.
Parenting time transitions can be hard on children. Reassure them, stay neutral when talking about their other parent, and keep routines as consistent as possible.
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